Wednesday, December 31, 2008
It was New Year's Eve, a night that l was not really in a celebration mood, because mom is still not in a good state of health. So we took a drive around town and for the first time in this town we had a stage erected for the countdown.A stage with preformances to attract a huge crowd, well since parking was available and free for me, why not, so we joined the crowd, it was fun, young hip-hop dancers were performing, not so much of the singing because it's all in Chinese, but the crowd made the atmosphere superb, it's just like everybody knows everybody, shouting of 'happy new year' wishes were heard everywhere(that's in English). When the count down started every body was shouting and screaming from '0' to '1', and suddendly a display of fireworks appeared on stage. Red chinese lanterns were lighted up for the coming Chinese New Year ! it was so beautiful. I was lucky to have my camera in my handbag so l snap some nice "memories" to share with everyone ! Happy New Year 2009 to everyone !!
Saturday, December 27, 2008
Like l said in the last entry, nothing has change just that maid is getting on well, and it's a little easier now, there are some time to spare, so..... l have been going to the gym, "Perfect U" for destress or keeping fit or for whatever reason, l just simply enjoy it and addicted to it, l go almost everyday, as long as there is a class, it's really fun with all woman and aunties, to gossip while doing the threadmill, or exchanging cooking experiences, some even try to sell Tshirt,it was fun, look at this 2 sexy woman having fun.......we even exchange christmas present on christmas eve, l took some pictures but....., l m a lousy photographer...haiz...... anyway.....well......l'll show it eventhough it's a bit blur like the photographer, have fun.
Thursday, December 18, 2008
< I was not at home. So anxiously I opened it..............a 'book... a scrap book' with 30yrs of my life with my daughter, happenings and trips that we did together, how lovely it is!!I have to blog it, its "memories of my life" Thankyou so much my "Little Bo Beeps" so nice of you and I'm feeling so proud and sentimental, and shedding tears of joy!!! Love you lots and lots !!!!
Monday, December 15, 2008
It's almost 4mths since mom first got sick, things has been down hill till today, almost everyday a new "shocking" problem will pop up, "a new bed sore, sweating tremedously, breathing heavily in the middle of the night, cramps and stiffness", l must say it's really stressful and sometimes not easy to handle, because, I notice if we move her she'll get nerous and her body becomes stiff, that makes it difficult for us to handle. And inorder to take bath for her once a week, the "best" l can manage is to wipe her everyday, it's sad to say that's not the worse, the worse was when 'my super maid' just took off without saying goodbye' it almost gave me a heartattack when l came home from work, found her missing and mom was alone at home, can you imagine how is it like to be in such a situation? It's unbelieveable that such a capable and good maid can put me into such a situation that almost killed me, thank goodness l have a replacement the very next day, the new maid is 'teacherable' hopfully she is a super maid too!.*************************** This year l had a very,very quiet birthday which fell on the 14/12, hubby bought me a small cake and my favourite 'cheeze potatoe' from KFC, it's was nice ! I like to say to all the 'sms' birthday wishes from friends and relatives, "Thankyou for remembering my birthday" but...... l still have not received the surprise birthday present that my daughter send me, wonder which postal service and when it will arrive? haha.....l love surprises.
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Mom is at status quo ! at least she is NOT deteriorating any further thank goodness for that......... and my 'super maid' she is really good . As for me...... I have been quite busy since l started working, on top of that bought myself an oven started baking which l have not done for atleast a good 15years, trying out butter cakes and cheese cake for the past 2 wednesdays, not bad at all, atleast is edible! sorry no pictures taken because its " not ready for photo taking yet," you know why!!!..........but...............today l have a photo of the "uglyess" sardine roll that l have seen in my life..........my sardine roll 'FAILED' in look but thank goodness... taste good. Will tell you more about my cheese cake the next time if I successfully bake one.
Saturday, October 25, 2008
I'm in the "eatery" industry with a history of 50yrs, from dad to mom and then to me. Ever since mom "got sick" l had to "close my shop" for 5wks and only re- started on the 8th oct, to my suprise bussiness is doing just as good as before,and although short handed I am still able to cope with the busy business......... of course....... with the help of hubby and an extra partimer. What kind of food l m selling..........? l must say is nice and tasty food!... haha....., the main dish is our popular "Braise Duck" followed by a few home cook dishes for customer's choices which l change the menu routinly for 6days, basically it is chicken and pork trotter but cooked differently, also different kind of soup everyday,......... we use charcoal to boil it for about 4 to 6hrs.......that way it brings out the flavour and taste good!! It's an old fashion eatery with a small outlet,and a glass stainless steel cabinet to show off our braise duck and all the other dishes laid out. Our speciality "Duck Noodle"that comes in soup or dry... and "Duck Rice". Mom is improving well, this morning , when we brought her out to use the foot messager she was able to control and move her head and rolled her eyes to the left and right for a while, that's good sign............we are still praying for a miracle.......and hoping she will be able to swallow soon.......
Thankyou for your "THOUGHTS N PRAYERS"
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
The nurse from the hospital came to our house to change mom's feeding tube, she was nice and professional, it seems they only come to service for 6months after that we'll be on our own, ......... either bring mom to the out- patient clinic or to a private hospital, lets hope mom will be able to eat and swallow by then. Things has been giving us a good turn, mom is getting a little bit better, maid's 'burn' is also much better, l have started working(that means money coming in hehe) and......oh yes......did l tell you that even Dollar(mini picher) was not spared from those bad "OMEN". She had a swell at her backside that looked like a growth, and l can see it is very painful though, thought is going to be something bad again, brought her to the family doctor, why familly doctor?, because there is only a lousy vet in our town which l don't trust, anyway, antibiotics and antiswell was given, after a day on the medication the "swell" busted with puss and blood which Daddy pressed it all out leaving a awaful hole, put some antiseptic cream on it, now is all well,and Dollar is running all over again, pheww... so no worrys!!). Now in hind-sight I think a "bumble bee" must have stung her. "Thankyou for keeping us in your thoughts and prayers"
Sunday, October 12, 2008
18stalks of orchids from me, to the nurses who have been very nice, helpful and patient while mom was in hospital ....... a big thank you with the greatest appreciation from our family ...................................................................................................
We have been going through a very rough and unstable situation for almost one and a half months now, mom's condition at the moment, is like 5days with signs of improvement and the 6th day bad , as the doctor told me this morning, "there is nothing much l can do except monitor her sugar level, if it's low, give her glucose if it's high give her insulin", that means is kind of under control.........but the worse is yet to come, my "super maid' who is taking care of my mom acidentaly spilled hot oil onto her both feet..............see............what l meant?????? l just wonder when is all these bad omens going to end, I' m really up to my nose and no more strenght........ really quite tired !!!!!
Sunday, October 05, 2008
It's time for me to update ........I've been missing in action for some time . Mom was again admitted to the hospital for 13days,.............after she was discharged from the hospital on the 6/9,she did not improve in fact deteroited, the worst was when her sugar level went up to 28 and did not come down, so she had to be admitted again to regulate the glugose level. The reason was a lung infection that 'haywired' the sugar level according to the doctor also her kidneys was not that good too, antibiotics and medication were given to improve the situation after 13days of observation in the hospital, lung, kidney and sugar all in order(thank god !). At the moment mom still sleeps alot and open her eyes if we call out to her, she can move a little of her right hand, wink her eyes, nods her head, that's about all, still feeding through the tube and not in control of her pee and poo. What we do at home is to make her sit up every morning for about 2hours to do some foot meassage(OTO), excerise her neck, arm and leg, really don't know what more can be done........except to pray !
Monday, September 15, 2008
Some of you might be surprised to see my lastest entry missing, well...sad to say after posting that entry, mom's condition got worse, so l took it off, really cannot understand why, just pray for the best. Just as she was getting better and suddenlly she became worse, really sad to see mom in this condition not able to tell us what's wrong. l really wish that someone up there gave us a helping hand and guide us.
Thursday, September 11, 2008
When l looked at my mom today, l flash back all my 52yrs of life with her. As far back as l can remember my mother is a very very tough and independent woman who never ever once caned us or complained. She worked very hard together with my father just to keep the five of us well fed and taken care off. l remember we were very poor then.............. they was a time that my mom had to cheat a can of milk to feed us,....... ...... with only 0.30cts to spend for a day's expentiture. l remember that when my dad had an accident with hot curry burning both of his legs, and was hospitalised for about 3mths. .......... we didn't have money to pay our rent, and the nasty landlord, while replacing the atap roof he bypassed our room, and when it rained we had to use buckets and pails to prevent water from flooding our tiny room. My mother work so hard that she only sleeps 4hrs a day. She got her driving license at the age of 40+, my father bought an old car, mom used to drive us to a public swimming pool for a swim whenever she was free. Dad will bring the whole family for picnic by the river side. My mother will sew cloths for the whole family during Chinese new year with same material, she said is cheaper to buy the whole roll, and if we were lost in the crowd its easier to spot(haha). Mom is good in almost everything, she is really hard working never once complained about hardship. She was so strong when my dad passed away suddently, and life just goes on................and six years ago she had a very mild stroke because of her strong character she was 80% back to normal, and just as sudden as the first stroke she is now having quite a bad 2nd stroke. l looked at my mother today........it brings so much tears to my eye, she is unable to talk, swallow, walk and...............she is still deterioting, she cannot move her eyeballs to the left, she is not in control of her bowel, just cannot imagine the sadness that she is going through at this moment not being able to get the message across, to express........... and confined to a wheelchair, life is so meaningless for her and yet life have to go on. 'God have his way of doing things',................. what things? may l ask.............. ?
Monday, September 08, 2008
It was a shocking and hectic morning, the wireless bell rang at 7.30am, so the 3 of us when straight to mom's room, only to find her awake wanting to pee, because the maid was not around so she rang the bell. As l looked again, her tube was on the bed, she must have accidently pulled it out while she was asleep, and her last meal was at 12midnight. We just had to act fast, to put it back before she became real hungary. We really did'nt know where we should be heading to........to reinsert the tube, is it to the ward who did the inserting before or the daycare centre who is incharge of the future changeing of the tube or just to the emergency department? Anyway l decided to go to the daycare centre first, since they are suppose to visit us every 2weeks to put in a new tube. Well, the nurse there said it was not their job to insert new tube, they only do the inserting when they house call us in 2weeks time. She advised us to go to the emegercy department, while l was on the way to the emegency we had to pass the ward where they inserted my mom's tube before, so l went to ask the nurse incharge and she also advised us to bring my mom to the emergency departemt and ask them to reinsert. So we went, well, at the reception counter they said "to reinsert we have to go to the out patient govertment clinic at Jalan Mengikboi" which is about 2km away. So we went to the outpatient clinic, l went down first to register and ask what l should do and so on.........so great.... l was asked to take a number and waited for about 3mins they called out my number, went to the counter paid Rm1.00, asked to go to counter 7 spoke to the nurse and was asked to go to room 9 with my mom to do the reinsertion. So we had to wheelchair mom from the car to room 9, asked us to put her on the bed and wait. Hubby and maid was inside with mom, l was outside waiting because l cannot bear to see mom in pain or suffer, it was over in about 20mins. The male nurse that reinserted her was nice according to hubby. It was a terrible morning, the first thing l did when l reached home was to feed her because her last meal was 12midnight and now is already 11am, followed by a bath, and then she took her nap, so did all of us, just got to catch 'cat naps' whenever we can.
Sunday, September 07, 2008
Dear Friends and blogger, thankyou so much for visiting my blog ........ to share my experiences, happiness, sadness and so on. As from now (for the time being ......) my entries will consist of information regarding the well being of my mother to inform my other siblings, niece, nephew and relatives about my mom's condition, please bear with me for awhile until mom gets better. Thank you !. _______________________________________ Mom was discharged from the hospital last Saturday 06/09/08. We will be feeding her tru her nose(nasogastric intubation) at home, it is not easy but we are getting on ok so far, except to monitor her sugar level and how much insulin we are suppose to inject. Mom seems to be very weak at mid day and looking better in the evening. Doctor gave her multivit, asprin and metformin(diabetic)......... these medicine to be given while feeding her tru the tube together with "Nestle Nutrition Formula Dietary food". The Dietary food is to be given every 3hrs and a last feed before she goes to bed.
Friday, September 05, 2008
Dear Friends and blogger, thankyou so much for visiting my blog ........ to share my experiences, happiness, sadness and so on. As from now (for the time being ......) my entries will consist of information regarding the well being of my mother to inform my other siblings, niece, nephew and relatives about my mom's condition, please bear with me for awhile until mom gets better. Thank you !. _______________________________________ Sad to say, mom's condition is off and on, it is so so very sad to see her choke on everything that we put into her mouth. She was admitted to the Kluang general hospital yesterday, doctors and nurses were really nice and patient. I accompany mom to JB in an amblulance for a brain CT scan. Doctor said the stroke was quite bad and confirmed it affected her tongue and throat. At the moment doctor put her on intro feeding, it was uneasy at the begining, she did shed a few tears, but only for awhile she was looking good before l left. Guess this is the best we can do for her as doctor's advice.
Sunday, August 31, 2008
Dear Friends and blogger, thankyou so much for visiting my blog ........ to share my experiences, happiness, sadness and so on. As from now (for the time being ......) my entries will consist of information regarding the well being of my mother to inform my other siblings, niece, nephew and relatives about my mom's condition, please bear with me for awhile until mom gets better. Thank you !. _______________________________________ It has been a week since my mom went into another mild stroke, at the begining it was really difficult, tired, busy, sad, worried and so on.......... sad to say that the stroke this time had numb her mouth and tongue causeing her difficulties in talking, her throat is also effected that's why she chokes. Well......l have some good news, it is improving, today mom don't choke so much, she had her morning "vege-fruit Enzymes" health drink with A-Z vitamins haha.....she finishes most of it, and her porridge too, on top of it she ask for coffee during tea time........good sign isn't it? Just want to update those who have been following my entries..........and I would like to say "THANK YOU"for your prayers. I think God heard us. "Thank You "
Wednesday, August 27, 2008
Dear Friends and blogger, thankyou so much for visiting my blog ........ to share my experiences, happiness, sadness and so on. As from now (for the time being ......) my entries will consist of information regarding the well being of my mother to inform my other siblings, niece, nephew and relatives about my mom's condition, please bear with me for awhile until mom gets better. Thank you !. _______________________________________ DAY 6: Today is a little relex, mom look a bit better less choking ,l gave her half a cup of some health drink call "VEGE-FRUIT ENZYMES" and she ate a bowl of porride for lunch, took bath for her today l use a small towel to wash her mouth and make her raise it with listerine, plenty of Johnson n Johnson baby powder........ermmmmm she smell nice haha....now she is asleep, let's hope she eat more and no choking for dinner. ________________________________________ DAY 5: Today l have to monitor mom's sugar closely as doctor advise, so that l know how much insulin to jap and medication to take, it's under control. As for lunch mom still choke on it, so l gave her some milo, and to my surprise she drank without choking. Dinner was great she finished a bowl porridge, that brighten my hectic day, haha. Anyway, l started useing the "OTO Electro Reflexologist" massager for her sole and the "Lip Trainer"with me helping to move her mouth, the Lip Trainer is to activate the nerve around the mouth and neck muscle to reduce choking.
Tuesday, August 26, 2008
Dear Friends and blogger, thankyou so much for visiting my blog ........ to share my experiences, happiness, sadness and so on. As from now (for the time being ......) my entries will consist of information regarding the well being of my mother to inform my other siblings, niece, nephew and relatives about my mom's condition, please bear with me for awhile until mom gets better. Thank you !. ________________________________________________ DAY 4: Today it's really a very very hectic, stress and worried day for me, because mom can't swallow, every mouth full she took seem to be choking her, so she rather not eat, since she is a diebiatic on insulin without food her sugar level will drop, she woke up sweating and slur so badly that l thought the worse has come, so l check her sugar level, is indeed very low at 3.1, l was shock with my hand trembleing l gave her milo to bring the sugar lever up and housecall a doctor. After drink the milo for about 20 mins, sugar level went back up to 7.80,phew.........just before the doctor came. Doctor said she looks alright....... we just got to monitor her sugar very closely, and advice us to gave her some sweet stuff everyday because she's eating less and on insulin jap, for this reason her sugar level will drop, and is dangerous because if sugar level is too low she'll slip into a coma, he said is better to be higher than too low. Will pray very hard for a better tomorrow.
Sunday, August 24, 2008
Dear Friends and blogger, thankyou so much for visiting my blog ........ to share my experiences, happiness, sadness and so on. As from now (for the time being ......) my entries will consist of information regarding the well being of my mother to inform my other siblings, niece, nephew and relatives about my mom's condition, please bear with me for awhile until mom gets better. Thank you !. ________________________________________________
DAY 3: This morning mom woke up for the frist time she used the wireless bell to call us to her assident because she can't walk on her own to the toilet. It looks like she is getting worse she chok even more today, anyway, her porridge today, l made, mince pork with mashed carrot, green bean and maize in a slow pot, tasty though........but she didn't finish, maybe she is so frighten of choking.
By the way, she find it difficult to walk even with the walker, wonder when will the stroke ends.
Here l like to thanks a very good friend that offer to loan me a portable toilet, colected it this morning, it's actually a wheelchair that come with a potty, amazeing isn't it?
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Dear Friends and blogger, thankyou so much for visiting my blog ........ to share my experiences, happiness, sadness and so on. As from now (for the time being ......) my entries will consist of information regarding the well being of my mother to inform my other siblings, niece, nephew and relatives about my mom's condition, please bear with me for awhile until mom gets better. Thank you !. ________________________________________________ DAY 2: Mom's condition is no better than yesterday, she complained that her pelvis' bone is very pain when she gets up, she finds it very difficult even to walk,the slurr in her speech is even more noticeable today.... , don't think she'll be able to go to the stall with me, I made an arrangement for the maid to stay with her at home, and I employed an emergency worker to take the place of the maid at the shop..........also arranging for a portable toilet chair for her convenient. Mom have to be very careful, she chok easy, someone have to be with her when she eat or drink to remind her to swallow slowly before she puts in another mouthful.
Friday, August 22, 2008
Dear Friends and blogger, thankyou so much for visiting my blog ........ to share my experiences, happiness, sadness and so on. As from now (for the time being ......) my entries will consist of information regarding the well being of my mother to inform my other siblings, niece, nephew and relatives about my mom's condition, please bear with me for awhile until mom gets better. Thank you !. Today is the first day that mom wanted me to take bath for her, l can see she is really very weak, but she kind of enjoy the bath maybe because she felt clean and smell good, haha. Mom seems to like the brown rice fish porridge, maybe is easier to swallow instead of bitting. Well, thank god she still do her physio cycle obediently, this will aleast help her in some way.
Thursday, August 21, 2008
Some time ago, I made an entry about my mom feeling not so good. Mom is really not looking that good, she has been coughing almost like choking and had difficulty in breathing, she even finds it difficult to bite when she eats, l have been cooking soft brown rice fish porridge for her and bought some cough mixture.............. hopfully she will get well. Her walking is just as bad infact worse she even wants me to take bath for her tomorrow which she finds it dificult to do it herself, really kind of sad because, most my other siblings are not staying in the same town, only me and my younger sister who is busy with her own family, anyway there is not much l can do except to try my best in taking care of her.
Friday, August 15, 2008
l know is silly to copy and paste some story line from somewhere, but somehow l felt a deep meaning in it, that l want to share.......... BEING A MOTHER After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would Love to spend some time with you.' The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my Mother, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. <>That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. 'What's wrong, are you well,' she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. 'I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,' I responded 'just the two of us.' She thought about it for a moment, and then said, 'I would like that very much.' That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. ' I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,' she said, as she got into the car. 'They can't wait to hear about our meeting.' We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half-way through the entrees, I lifted my eyes and saw Mother sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. 'It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,' she said. 'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,' I responded. During the dinner , we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.' I ag reed. 'How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice, much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered. A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place Mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. 'I love you, son' At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I love YOU' and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till some 'other' time. ................but somehow or rather......it's easier said than done.............
Sunday, August 10, 2008
The opening ceremony of the "Beijing Olympics 2008" just simply fantastic, l watched it over and over and over again.... it's just great and beautiful and meaningful and so on..................and on......and on.....when the whole world came together into one big event,one community or maybe one big family........
Saturday, July 26, 2008
The past 1 wk l have been very stressful and worried, it all started when my mom told me that her left leg is kind of weak. She had a mild stroke that affected her right side about 6yrs ago. It is therefore nothing unusual for her left side to feel weak, further more she is 77yrs old,and as she gets older it becomes worse, it will never get better due to lack of exercise, even though l have been telling her to do so years ago !
Looking at my mom, l start to imagine what would all of us be like when we are at her age.........
So, recently I bought her a walking stick, but.......she is shy, refuses to use it and so she fell. Nothing serious just bruises on her knee. Well,.........what's next???.........I took her to the doctor to make sure there are no broken bones and at the same time have a full medical check up to see exactly what is wrong with her that have weaken her leg. Guess what the medical report said: liver no problem, kidney good, b/pressure perfect, sugar beautiful(she is a diebitic), cholestrol ok........see she has healthy genes in her(hope she passed it on to me), the only thing wrong with her is lack of excercise, (which she simply refuses to do,) that's what doctor said..........so...for cases like my mom the "Orthopaedic" doctor advised us to get her a physiu cycle so that she can atleast exercise her legs and arms at home and at the same time give her pharmaton and ginsen powder (hopefully it help)......not only am I stressed over her sickness, I' m also stretched over my poor wallet!!!!!!!!!!
Since my mom's had that mild stroke six years ago, our house is like a mini physiotherapy studio^_^, an OTO foot massager, a threadmill which she don't want to use, and now a physio cycle, on top of those, we have a wheel chair and now a walker.
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
When l was in school, this remark was in my report card, always the same... from primary till secondary "talkative and playful in class". This is my basic characteristic even till today, l talk alot especially with people who are close to me, and this made me a "not so nice person" in the eyes of certain groups.
l do remind myself to say what l should and should not, but...most of the time l get carried away, l'll say anything under the sun, not realising that some topics are not meant for gossiping.
"What the hell, just be yourself nobody is perfect" sometime l say to myself, but sad to say..... life don't work that way, life never works the way we want it to work.
"You are full of emotions" once said to me by a german lady that l met for the first time. l kind of agree with her , because l do keep things to myself and try to solve my own problems. l cry easy , to me......... l rather it this way, to cry alone than get the whole world to cry with you. Why am l saying all these? ................... it must be the gloomy weather, or is it because my hubby cut my Million's hair without my permission and l m real angry..........
Monday, July 14, 2008
It was a trip to Kuala Lumpur for my cousin's grand daughter full moon celebration, see how happy she is being a new granny
And Million got to meet up with one of her friend Rocky from http://www.silkynfrenzclub.com/.
Rocky is a very friendly dog, is just that, Million is shy and a scardy cat, but she had fun sitting on my lap admiring Rocky........
Monday, June 16, 2008
In the early morning of the day 30/5/08 our little apartment was filled with laughter, chattering with noises of happiness from stay over good friends, relatives, photographer, make-up artis.Then there was the cake delivery, setting up tables of food and drinks, chairs , fan and so on.
Although l was busy, my heart had this mix feeling......kind of reluctant to let my daughter go and at the same time feeling happy for her to have found herself a wonderful husband, as the time drew nearer to putting on her veil(is a tradition for the parent to put on the veil for the bride)my heart beat faster, and suddently I heard the make-up artis calling out for me, and...... l headed for the kitchen and start crying, l don't even know is it tears of joy or tears of reluctance....anyway... l managed to stop and hold my tears till l put on her veil gave her a hug, didn't want to spoil her make-up.
The groom came with a group of his friends, "WHY, a group of his friends?" some may ask, well.... to give him a helping hand incase the bride's girlfriends gave him a hard time in trying to get into the apartment.........
After he came in and took the hand of the bride the programme was followed by praying and "thankyou" for a good marriage...........followed by the tea ceremony, the groom and the bride will serve tea for the seniors relatives and the younger cousins will serve tea to the groom and bride, gifts of blessing are given to the new couple. Next................on the way to the groom's house.