It's easier say than done.....

Join 3 of my girlfriend for a drink after work. One of the girls 'Mei' was telling us how her 81yrs old mother drive her crazy, and we were exchanging note about our mother. After hearings all their stories about their mom, thank god... my mom was really an angel. Well... after a few drinks one lead to another we end up talking about grief. Mei was saying, she had done her duty as a daughter, providing the best for her mother and not feeling guilty if she pass on, she'll not grief because she is now learning to "detach". Can we really "detach"? I think is easier say then done. I told myself while I was taking care of my mom that 'I will have no regrets or that guilty conscious' when mom pass on because I took care and gave her the best......in reality..... it's not like that, after mom pass on I have this feeling that if I had done this or that, she'll not fall sick or she'll not die, you know that sort of things, so I believe when the time come Mei will surely feel the same. Talking about grief ting, they think I am very strong and handle the grief very well. Truthfully....it was not easy, I said....some people grief openly, as for me I grief quietly inside and put a very strong front even till today it's hard, because I stayed with mom for 20yrs under the same roof doing everything together for 7300days, and..... everything has a memories. Again....can we really "detach"?